I used to feel guilty spending money on myself, especially when it came to clothes, but this year, I decided to prioritize comfort. I took a chance on a dress from Temu, expecting something cute—but what I got was a thick, fuzzy, hoodie-style lounge dress that feels like a full-body hug. It was an unexpected …
Let’s be real—I am not great with money.
For a long time, that meant I felt guilty spending it on myself. If my kids or my husband needed something, I’d find a way. But for me? Bare minimum, if anything at all.
And clothes? Clothes have always been hard.
I’ve finally accepted that I need to dress for comfort—both physically and mentally. Some fabrics make my skin crawl, some fits make me feel self-conscious, and some outfits just don’t feel right. So, I do what I can: I thrift when possible, and I lucked out with a buy-nothing group that had a plus-size clothing tub making the rounds in my neighborhood.
But this year, I decided to splurge a little. I bought myself some nice jeans and work shirts. And… I discovered Temu and Shein. (Pause for judgment… and moving on!)
Say what you want, but these little packages of joy have been a game-changer for me. And that brings me to my latest unexpected win: The Dress.
I saw it on Temu. I won’t lie—I don’t read descriptions. I look at the pictures, decide if it’s cute, and roll the dice. I figured this dress would be adorable with boots. I had no illusions that I’d look like the perfectly posed, impossibly tiny model wearing it, but I still thought it was worth a try.
What I did not expect, however, was that this dress would feel like a full-body hug.
Thick. Fuzzy on the inside. Basically a giant hoodie. WITH POCKETS. AND A HOOD. AND IT’S LONG.
This isn’t just a dress—it’s an AuDHD dream lounge dress. It’s cozy. It’s warm. I didn’t lose my phone all night (though it did take me a minute to figure out which pocket it was in).
I’m telling you, this was a win.
Temu has surprised me a lot lately—some good, some meh, but this one? This was a score. And honestly, it’s been nice to finally give myself permission to spend a little on things that bring me happiness.
More Temu adventures to come… but for now, I’m going to go live my best comfy, cozy, hoodie-dress life.
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Do you remember being a kid and coloring? Or getting a new Lego set? Or a new art kit? I remember the peace that came with moving my hands and creating something. Not creating something for work or to sell. Something you do for you. Something to calm your mind in this crazy world that tells you to “work more, and rest never.” That is what I feel we see the world pushing our kids to relax with a purpose, I want to show my daughters to prioritize their mental health and to practice self-care. For me, as a late-in-life diagnosed autistic adhd woman, I relax by moving my hands. Creating things, some original and some not-so-original, but everything will have a story. I will introduce our beautiful chas to you along with all of their creativity and their toolbox to survive an overwhelming world.
